If you’ve ever wondered the exact meaning of a “Golden Child”, I can give you one from being married to a narcissist and it’s beyond painful. Of course anything dealing with narcissism is pain but this one hurts on a different level. If a narc had a child before you came into the picture, please be aware. It will be a tool that will cut you to the core, over and over.
Both my Marc husband and I had a child each before we met. We ended up having two together, but neither of them ever measured up in his eyes. His first child, a daughter, was a princess in the home. She had no rules, was told she could disrespect me, was taken out to eat three meals a day when she was around, while the kids and I had to stay home and eat whatever we could find, and he ignored us all when she came around.
The pain was unbearable, but he always knew how to cause the most, and his daughter was one way he knew he could. I drove a 20 year old car, which he told me many times that I didn’t even deserve it, and his daughter, the second she turned 16, was bought a brand new mustang, and if the pain wasn’t bad enough to know this, I only found out by scrolling through Facebook and seeing him post a video of her getting it at his ex wife’s house.
Please keep in mind that if you are hurting over a situation like this, it helps to know it is textbook and you, I, all of us- we are not alone. It’s going to be ok. It just takes the lightbulb coming on for each of us. May God bless you all
Love,
Chelley
A Survivor’s Heart 